Even though joint custody sounds ideal — both parents sharing equally in the upbringing of their children — such arrangements are not always realistic. Why? Divorce can be a bitter experience, and to co-parent on equal terms, you must be able to communicate and treat each other with respect. Unless you and your ex can get along after divorce, joint custody won’t be practical.
Certainly, for children, having both parents getting along and actively participating in their lives provides them with the best opportunity to recover from divorce, feel loved and get on with normal lives. The Texas Family Code makes provisions for joint custody arrangements.
Factors that Make Joint Custody Practical
There are factors that often make shared custody successful. They typically include:
- Older children. The older your children are — especially when they are teenagers or adolescents — the more they are capable of understanding and cooperating within a co-parenting situation.
- Amicable parental relationships. If you and your ex can maintain a good relationship after divorce, then you can easily communicate and make important decisions together regarding your kids.
- Living in close proximity. It’s difficult to arrange joint custody when parents live far apart. Picking up kids after school or returning them to the other parent’s house becomes cumbersome. It’s much easier to arrange exchanges when residences are within close proximity.
- Pre-established pattern of shared parenting. When you and your spouse have pre-established a pattern of sharing parenting responsibilities during marriage, you’re already grooved into a co-parenting relationship. This relationship can make it much easier to share custody after divorce — easier for both of you as parents and for your children.
Get Legal Help with Child Custody Arrangements
Our attorneys at C.E. Borman & Associates can help you make important decisions about child custody and also help with negotiating a fair settlement.