Surviving divorce during the holidays can be hard because it dredges up memories of happier times. The contrast of a joyful season with a failed marriage is sometimes hard to take.
At CE Borman & Associates, we understand how challenging this time can be, especially when memories of past holidays with your former spouse resurface. Our compassionate legal team, led by our dedicated advocate, Channa Borman, is here to support you through difficult moments, ensuring you have the guidance and support you need.
As a Texas family law firm, we have helped countless clients move forward after divorce, even during the holiday season. In this blog, we are sharing some valuable tips to help you find comfort and joy during this time.
How to Cope with the Holidays After Divorce
The holidays are typically associated with happiness, family gatherings, and cherished traditions. However, after a divorce, these once joyous occasions can feel like painful reminders of what’s been lost. While it may not be easy, there are ways to make the holidays more manageable.
Below are several strategies to help you get through this challenging period while focusing on your well-being and your children’s happiness.
1. Be Flexible with Holiday Celebrations
If you have children, flexibility is key. There’s no need to feel confined to a specific holiday schedule. Besides, your kids can have double holidays—one with mom and one with dad.
Consider these options to make the season less stressful:
- Celebrate Christmas on Christmas Eve if your children will be with the other parent on Christmas Day (or vice versa).
- The “double holidays” experience helps your kids shift their focus away from what’s “lost” to the added joy of having two celebrations.
- Embrace non-traditional dates or new ways of celebrating to reduce the pressure to keep things exactly as they were.
2. Create New Traditions to Bring Joy
After a divorce, holding on to old traditions can sometimes amplify feelings of loss. Instead of following old patterns, come up with new fun ways to celebrate the holidays. It doesn’t always have to be grand, and here are some options you might want to consider:
- Plan a special outing or host a themed holiday movie night at home.
- Involve your children in planning new activities, such as baking holiday treats, decorating together, or crafting gifts for loved ones.
- Shift the focus from replicating the past to creating new memories that celebrate your present circumstances.
3. Protect Your Children’s Emotional Well-Being
Children may also feel the impact of the holidays after a divorce, especially if they’re used to past family traditions. Help your kids avoid past triggers too by creating new and fun holiday activities with friends and family.
- Reassure your children about the holidays being a fun time.
- Encourage your kids to share their feelings and acknowledge their emotions without dismissing them.
- Create new family traditions that include close friends or extended family members to build a sense of community and support.
4. Prioritize Self-Care During the Holidays
While focusing on your children’s happiness is important, don’t neglect your own well-being. Divorce can be draining, and the holiday season often adds additional stress. Make self-care a priority:
- Make sure you eat well and get enough sleep and exercise. Take care of your health during the holidays so you can avoid experiencing the stress of the season.
- Exercise is a great way to relieve stress and boost your mood.
- Schedule time for activities that relax you, such as reading, meditation, or enjoying a favorite hobby.
- Allow yourself to set boundaries if you feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to say “no” to events or gatherings that you’re not emotionally ready to handle.
5. Lean on Family and Friends for Support
It’s natural to feel lonely or overwhelmed during the holidays, especially if it’s your first time celebrating post-divorce. Reaching out to your support network can make a big difference:
- Turn to your family and friends for support with overcoming feelings of loneliness or depression.
- Be open about your feelings and let others know if you’re struggling — you may be surprised by how willing they are to help.
- Plan gatherings or outings with loved ones to keep your spirits up and remind yourself that you’re not alone.
Texas Laws on Child Custody and Holiday Schedules
In Texas, child custody arrangements, also known as conservatorships, can include specific provisions for holiday schedules. The courts prioritize the best interests of the child, which may involve alternating holidays between parents or splitting time during special occasions.
If you’re concerned about how your custody agreement will affect your holiday plans, consult with your attorney.
At CE Borman & Associates, we can help you understand your rights and ensure that your agreement aligns with Texas Family Code § 153.316, which addresses standard possession orders and holiday visitation schedules.
Contact The Texas-Based Divorce Lawyers at C.E. Borman Today
The holidays may bring unique challenges when you’re coping with a divorce, but you don’t have to go through it alone.
If you need guidance on adjusting your custody arrangement, managing holiday stress, or simply want someone to talk to about your concerns, please don’t hesitate to reach out to a loved one or a trusted professional.
We are here for you, this holiday season and always.
